Sometime in the early 2000’s (I can’t pinpoint the exact date) I started on a serious journey of self-improvement. I read (and continue to read) lots of self-development books, as well as attend seminars and listen to audio programmes.
This was followed a couple of years later by a serious attempt at improving my spirituality and my consciousness. You could say that I started out on an attempted path to enlightenment (you can see some musings on this path here and here. I planned to write much more about this topic then I actually did. Consider this blog post as part of these musings. Make sure to also listen to my Krazy Kevin interviews, which cover a lot of spiritual topics.)
I also started reading more religious books. I wanted to gain a deeper understanding of my religion – not the superficial one that most people seem to have. This religious reading usually intensifies in Ramadan, which it will again this month.
Anyway, one of the ironic challenges that I had (and continue to have to some degree) is that as my consciousness improves, I have less tolerance for people who are a million miles behind in their level of thinking, and their view of the world. People who are mere insects on the spiritual evolutionary scale. People who have victim mentalities and loser-type thinking. I just want to get away from them, and have at least conversation with them as possible.
But of course this is not easy, as people like that are all around us, and we cannot avoid contact with them. They can be be friends, business associates, colleagues, or even family members. I have to admit I was not sure on how to deal with the spiritual insects, and also slightly puzzled by my lack of patience for them. As my consciousness and spirituality improves, shouldn’t I have more tolerance for them? Did my consciousness reduce rather than increase?
This was one of the topics I wanted to discuss with spiritual guru and author Dr. Joe Vitale, when I attended his Awakened Millionaire Weekend last year. At one point during the seminar he asked if anyone had any questions they wanted to ask, or topics they wanted to discuss, so I brought up the subject.
His reply was very interesting.
He told me that the first thing I had to do was to lead by example. Whenever I met a person who was a spiritual insect I still should lead by example, and do and say the right things regardless of what the other person was doing or saying. This made a lot of sense, and I guess to a certain degree is common sense, but I appreciated the reminder nonetheless.
The second thing he said was a bit more profound. He told me “The second thing you should realise is that they a mirror of you.” Wow! I thought, that’s interesting!
It’s something similar to what I heard Deepak Chopra say when he came to Bahrain. We attract our mirror images sometimes. The way I see it, because I had a lack of patience and tolerance for the spiritual insects I attracted people who are impatient and intolerant and got on my nerves! It’s my own fault!
The basic tenant of the law of attraction is that we attract what we think about the most. Though this was not what I was thinking about the most – not even a lot to be honest, but I think I was attracting my mirror image to be taught a lesson in acceptance and tolerance. The more tolerant I become (even with intellectual/spiritual insects) the less I attract intolerant people. Something to think about.
So my friend, make sure to have a handle on your thoughts, especially the negative ones.
Having said that, I want to end this post with another thought; don’t hesitate to fire people from your life that are not adding value. Look, if you have a cousin or in-law for example that is a spiritual insect, there’s not much you can do about than to work on yourself and hope for the best. Perhaps also try to minimise contact with this person as much as possible.
But if this person is an acquaintance or ‘friend’, dump them. Remember you can’t choose your family but you can choose your friends. I’ve done it over the years where I’ve stopped associating with people because I found them way too negative, and their thinking way too limited. I try to do this on a regular basis, cut out the losers out of my life as much as possible – all the while working on myself.
Hope you found this useful.
Talk to you soon.