I’m used to being (verbally) attacked every once in a while. There’s not a single successful person who doesn’t attract at least some degree of criticism. Believe it or not, being criticised is a good thing!
So, with that in mind, I’d like to share a nasty comment left by “Ayesha”. It was left on the blog post I wrote about the fake John Hopkins cancer email. Be warned, it contains dirty language and I’ve not edited it.
Dear Mr. Gosaibi,
It has come to my attention that there are a lot of malignant tumours multiplying in your brain producing loads of mucopurulent fibrinous exudate which comes up from your anus and directly out of your mouth …due to reverse peristalsis… it happens because like attracts like… so all the shit down there gets attracted to the shit in your cranial cavity… after which you spew it out to share with us all.
The genetic cause for this seems to be the bullshit gene which got activated when you saw dollars in the charlatan enterprise…
ps..ppl. we love you…if you want to save yourself keep away from this RETARD. Doing a bit of research will show you how dangerously misleading all this is. A bit of truth mixed in with a load of bullcrap.
Is this mean or what?? First of all Ayesha, I forgive you. No really, I do. I’m not being sarcastic or anything. I know you didn’t ask for forgiveness, but I forgive you nonetheless. I suspect I must have hit a raw nerve with my comments. I suspect that you or someone you know suffers or suffered from cancer, hence your comments. If this is the case I’d like to offer you my sincerest apologies for bringing up painful memories. I hope the fact that you managed to release your anger made you feel better.
If your comments are not related to anyone you know suffering from cancer, then I still forgive you. And I suggest you stop visiting my blog because it will probably just frustrate you even more. Again this is honest to goodness advice, and I say it without any sarcasm.
One more thing Ayesha, on a lighter note, that was the most creative insult I’ve ever received! Really! I’ve been insulted before many times but this was by far the most eloquent! You have some good creative writing skills and I suggest you pursue that – but in a more friendly tone of course.
Moving on to you, dear reader. Like I said before, being attacked like this is a good thing. I think Matt Furey said it first, “NO CRITICS = NO SUCCESS.”
The more successful you become the more critics you will have. It’s a law of the universe and it cannot be changed. If you’re too friendly (some) people will criticise you and think you’re a pushover. And if you’re harsh and straight forward (some) people will say you’re mean and rude. If you’re ambitious (some) people will say you’re greedy and perhaps even corrupt. If you’re not ambitious and content (some) people will call you a lazy bum. There’s no escape from criticism.
Another thing. There are people in this world who can’t wait to get offended. The moment they wake up they are on a mission to get offended by someone or something, and they can’t wait to criticise someone. Though I’ve never met her, it sounds like Ayesha is in this category. And the more successful you are the more criticism will come your way. So believe it or not getting a comment like this is actually a sign of success!
Don’t Defend Yourself
I want to share another nugget of wisdom with you. I heard it from Deepak Chopra, at a live event here in Bahrain, and it had a huge impact on me. He said something to the effect of don’t justify yourself to others. I later heard a more detailed explanation on one of his audio programmes where he explained that when you don’t defend yourself you become defenceless, and when you become defenceless, there’s nothing for others to attack. I love it!
Though I’ve probably given miss Ayesha way more attention than she deserves, notice that I didn’t defend or justify my actions, because I didn’t feel the need to. I did apologise, but I did not justify or defend myself. I wanted to be better than she was, but I also think she spoke from a place of pain, and I didn’t want to make it worse. I could have been as nasty as she was, or given her some sort of witty reply, but what’s the point, right?
Well, that’s that. Look forward to seeing your comments.