The Shocking Truth About Swine Flue

Posted July 9, 2009 by Suhail Algosaibi
Categories: Fitness/Health

Swine
I don’t know what it is about me, but I rarely panic.  A trait I inherited from my mother I think.  My mother has always been cool, calm and collected, regardless of how dire or desperate the situation.

I’m a lot like her in this regard, when I hear about “epidemics” and “pandemics” and the latest scare, I hardly take notice.  The media almost always exaggerate the situation, remember that fears sells.  And newspapers and news channels have to sell advertising space and airtime to make money, and the more shocking and scary their stories, the more viewers and readers they have, which leads to more advertisers, and more profits.

Remember also that the media is hungry and desperate for stories.  There are many 24 hour news channels these days, and they need to have a constant inflow of stories, and when they have a good story they milk the hell out of it.

So when I first heard about this swine flue pandemic, I took it with a massive grain of salt, knowing what the media is like.  But the “grain of salt” goes much further than just the media.

There is a great alternative health newsletter entitled What Doctors Don’t Tell You, which I was reading yesterday.  The June 2009 issue has a great article on the swine flue by Bryan Hubbard.  Here’s part of what he says:

“This latest health panic [the swine flue] coincides almost exactly with when vast consignments of Tamiflu – bought to fight against avian or bird flue (caused by by the H5N1 subtype of the influenza A virus), another epidemic that never happened – are coming to the end of their shelf life.  Without the latest scare, billions of dollars of Tamiflu stock would have to be discarded – with our health guardians forced to have to explain themselves to their governments in these cash strapped times.”

According to the article, the US and UK governments have  billions of dollars worth of Tamifluiflu stock that they must use within the next few months, or they’ll expire.  Interesting, huh?

According to the article, the number of confirmed deaths is only seven!  Can you believe that?  According to Dr. Joseph Mercola, the number of deaths from the swine flue are just 145 world wide!  Compare that to the 500,000 deaths that occur due to the annual seasonal flue (source: WDDTY), and the 3,000 deaths that occur DAILY due to malaria (source: Mercola).  Makes you think, right?

So What Are The Symptoms of Swine Flue?

According to the aforementioned Mercola, the symptoms of swine flue are:

* Fever of more than 100 (38 degrees C)
* Coughing
* Runny nose and/or sore throat
* Joint aches
* Severe headache
* Vomiting and/or diarrhoea
* Lethargy
* Lack of appetite

That’s it!  All these precautions and panic for these symptoms!  To make things even more interesting, the Tamiflu side effects are almost identical to these symptoms.  How scary is that?!

So how can you avoid the swine flue, or any other flue for that matter?  By having a healthy immune system.  This is done through good food and nutrition; limited sugar and processed food intake; enough sleep and rest; stress reduction and control; and exercise.  That’s pretty much it really, being healthy and disease free is not that difficult.

I urge to subscribe to the WDDTY newsletter, and to read Dr. Mercola’s blog for provocative and interesting health updates.

Thanks for taking the time to read this and talk to you soon.

The Falak Enterprises Big Bang!

Posted July 1, 2009 by Suhail Algosaibi
Categories: Videos, Zen-Do

We had our first-ever “Big Bang” event last week.  The Big Bang is an intense, two-day event where my Team (from Zen-Do and DBC) undergoes training, participates in team-building activities, and where we just try to have (lots) of fun!

Boy was it exhausting! Let me give you a run down of what we did.  On Day One we started with me giving all Team Members a presentation on marketing, then we had an intense Kickboxing session at Zen-Do, followed by lunch at Carla’s in Cyprus Gardens.  This was followed by me giving them a “Street Self-Defence Secrets” class.  I haven’t done one in years and the Team was just blown away!  Anyway, this was followed by a bowling session in the City Centre (which I won :) ), followed by dinner.  We started the day at 10:00 am and finished around 11:00 pm or so.  We were all exhausted, but feeling good.

Day Two started at 10:00 am again with an external expert giving us a seminar on customer service.  He explained the 6 different levels of customer service, which gave us an excellent idea of what to aim for.  This was followed by lunch in Mino’s Pizzeria.  We rented out the whole restaurant and we made our own salads and pizzas.  It was so much fun!  We then all headed to Zen-Do where we held a talent competition.  I never knew we had such talented Team Members!  We had people singing, dancing, playing instruments, doing origami, doing henna and various other things!  We had a blast!

After the talent competition I gave out prizes and awards to all of our Team Members.  This was followed by a game of dodge ball and then dinner.  We were bushed!

What a great two days!  It was so much fun and we all really bonded.  The purpose of the event was for all the Team Members to get some training and have lots of fun.  Having a highly motivated, well trained Team, leads to much better customer service.  My management philosophy is to make sure my Team Members are happy and treated well, so that they treat our customers well.  It’s quite simple really.

Here are some photos  of our event.

Amazing Philippines Jail Dance Routine!

Posted June 15, 2009 by Suhail Algosaibi
Categories: Uncategorized

I’m not sure what the story here is, but it seems this is some sort of rehabilitation effort in the Philippine jail system.  It’s really amazing.  Check out the video:

The Magical Two Step Process To Achieving Anything You Want

Posted June 11, 2009 by Suhail Algosaibi
Categories: Personal/Family, Success

Life is funny like that.

Some things are so complicated it’s almost scary, while others things are so simple it’s hardly believable (like my 23-minute weight loss concept for example).

Believe it or not, there’re only two steps you need to take to achieve anything you want in life – anything.  Do you want to know what they are?  Really? Okay, prepare to be un-amazed!  They’re in the category of too simple to believe.  Here goes:

Step one: stop doing the things that are preventing you from reaching your goals.

Step two: start doing the things that will help you reach your goals.

I think these steps are really profound, yet so simple.  You really don’t need to do more than that.  Want to lose weight and get fit?  Well, stop doing the things that are making you overweight and unfit, and then start doing the opposite.

Let me give you a couple examples from situations I’ve come across.  As you may or may not know, one of the hats I wear is that of a marketing consultant for small and medium sized businesses.  One of the complaints I hear a lot from clients is that they don’t get enough customers.

When I ask them to show me their marketing material they show me typical “brand” advertising, that virtually everyone in their industry is doing, which is more less completely ineffective.  So, Step One would be to stop using this type of marketing material.  And to stop all activities that prevent them from getting the number of clients they want.

The second step would be to start doing the things that attract more clients.  Things like switching to direct response marketing rather than brand advertising; introducing a customer service philosophy in the business; training staff members especially the person who answers the phone (ironically, the receptionist, who has the first contact with the client when they call, typically receives the least amount of training and attention from the management); adding a customer database for later follow up; sending out monthly newsletters; adding more lead generation sources, and on and on.

I was having a conversation with a business owner a while ago, and this person was complaining about how bad their staff was. Well, I thought to myself, you hired them.  I told them to get rid of them if they weren’t happy with them.  I think this never crossed their mind!

My wife, a nutritionist, told me of a woman who wanted to to see her for weight loss, but was not willing to give up her daily chocolates and sweets.  In fact in her email there was a long list of things she was not prepared to give up.  My wife refused to see her.  She obviously wouldn’t even do Step One.

I met a friend for lunch a couple of days ago.  He was telling me how frustrated he was with his weight, and how he finally wanted to lose weight and change his life.  He was asking me a lot of questions about the DreamBody Centre (DBC).  I told him it would definitely work.  But I also told him it would be a lot more effective if he stopped doing the things that were making him overweight.  I also talked about the dangers of dairy products and he said “come on Suhail!  You can’t expect me to give up cheese!”  I replied by saying that he’ll only reach his goals to the degree he’s willing to work for them.

My point is the reason a lot of people aren’t getting what they want is because their not even willing to do Step One, let alone Step Two.  See my point?

Unfortunately, too many people have a victim mentality.  They think that they are somehow helpless in their situation.  One of the things I try to do is give them permission to change their situation.  I know this might sound strange.  What I mean is I tell them that those successful people they are trying to be like are not that different from them.  They don’t possess any special abilities that they don’t have, all they’re doing is following the two step process.

By the way, I said these steps were simple, but not necessarily easy.  But they’re not that hard either. It just requires some self discipline and practice.

Going back to my friend that I just mentioned.  I’m meeting him in the DBC next week.  He said he was ready to do what it takes to transform his body, and his life!  I’ll keep you posted on that.

So how can you apply this in your life?

First of all of course, you’ve got to know what you want.  Ask yourself what you are doing right now that is stopping you from achieving your goals, and then just stop doing it!  Make a list of the things that are stopping you, and then figure out a way of solving each point on your list.

Then make another list of all the things you need to do to reach your goals.  Most of the items on this list will probably be just the opposite of the first list.  Then make a plan of implementing these things.

Don’t go for drastic, life altering changes immediately, start with baby steps.  Depending on how big your goals are, the time it takes to achieve them might take anything from a few weeks, to several years.  Remember, you only need to work as hard as your goals are big.  The bigger your goals, the bigger the effort you have to put into achieving them, and the longer they take to achieve.

Also, allow for temporary set backs and moments of self-doubt.  These are absolutely normal.  We all have a Great Critic Within (CGW), and you have to work on controlling him or her.

Well my friend, that’s all for today, hope this was useful and talk to you soon.

Oh, one more thing… remember to visit this blog regularly to stay inspired and motivated :)

The Amazing Food Matters Movie

Posted May 27, 2009 by Suhail Algosaibi
Categories: Fitness/Health, Personal/Family

My good friend Saad lent me this DVD, and I have to say it’s just amazing! Food matters is an informative documentary/expose on why people’s health is deteriorating rapidly in the modern world, despite all the advances in modern medicine.  I’ve watched half of it so far and am enjoying every second of it.

I’ve ordered 10 copies from the website, can you believe it?  That’s how great I think this documentary is.  Listen, if you’re in any way interested in a healthy lifestyle then I recommend you get it too.  Seriously.

Here’s a trailer of the movie:

Musings on The Path to Enlightenment – The Power of Gratitude

Posted May 26, 2009 by Suhail Algosaibi
Categories: Personal/Family, Success

You might recall that a few weeks ago I wrote a blog post on my thoughts and “musings” on my attempted path to a higher consciousness, or to enlightenment.

To see the previous post click here.

Today I want to talk to you about the power of gratitude.  Gratitude is one of the most fundamentally important components of spiritual growth.  It all starts with gratitude.  You can’t grow without first being grateful about where you are now, even if you don’t like where you are now!

You may have been dealt some pretty nasty cards in your life, and you may be misarbele at the moment, but even if that is the case you should still be grateful for what you have.  For one thing, it could be worse, right?  Trust me, there’s always someone who’s less fortunate than you, and that should make you grateful for what you have.

Gratitude Can Remove Bad Luck

Many years ago I had a guy working for me who was convinced that he was unlucky.  Talk about a self-fulfilling prophecy!  Of course the more unlucky he thought he was, the more “bad luck” he attracted.

Anyway, one day he and I were talking, and I told him that the only reason he was unlucky was because he subconsciously attracted bad luck, because he saw himself as unlucky.  His reaction was “Okay, but I don’t know how to stop thinking like that.”  I then offered him the solution, I told him that he should develop a mind set of gratitude.  Every morning he should wake up and list all the things he’s thankful for.

I told him that if he did this long enough his bad luck would disappear.  Well, he tried it and reported a few weeks later that it worked! That’s the power of gratitude!  Of course this is something Islam (and I suspect all major religions) has been espousing for a long time.  The words Alhamdulilah are a lot more powerful than people realise.

Whenever you go through a tough period just remind yourself how lucky you are.  It really helps.

Okay, I can almost hear some people thinking, Yeah!  But I don’t  have anything to be thankful for! Really?  Are you sure?  I bet if you thought hard and long enough, you’d come up with a few things.  It doesn’t have to be anything big.  The point is not so much to be grateful for the “thing”, but rather to develop the mind set of gratitude.

I heard personal development guru Dr. Joe Vitale say that when he first heard about this concept about 30 years ago or so, when he was a struggling writer he couldn’t come up with a single thing he could be thankful for.  When pushed the only thing he could think about was the pencil he was holding.  At the time his dream was to be a successful author, so he forced himself to be thankful for the pencil.  At first he  was cynical and thought okay, I’m thankful for the pencil because I could use it to write a suicide note!

But as he thought about it he started feeling genuinely thankful for it because that simple pencil could help him write great works, and maybe even a best seller.  After a few minutes he felt really grateful for the pencil, and he started to feel much better about his life and his dire situation.

A Gratitude List

You can take this concept further by actually making a list of things you’re thankful for.  Allow me to share my list.  Here goes:

1) I’m thankful for my wonderful wife and kids that make me happier than I’ve ever thought possible.

2) My wonderful, supporting parents, to whom I owe an incalculable debt of gratitude for all that they did for me while growing up, and what they continue to do to this day.

3) My siblings and their families.  Knowing that you have a solid family around you makes all the difference.

4) My extended family from both sides.

5) My amazing friends.  Though I don’t get to see them as much as I would like to, I enjoy it tremendously when I do get to spend time with them.

6) My businesses and the truly amazing people that work in them.  I’m blessed to work in fields where I can literally help hundreds and hundreds of people improve their lives.  I’m beyond grateful for that.  And I honoured and privileged to have those Team Members that work for me to have chosen me as their employer.

7) I’m thankful for the customers that frequent my businesses.  Without them the businesses wouldn’t even exist.  I’m especially thankful for the parents who have entrusted us to teach their children how to defend themselves and develop their confidence.

8 )  My excellent health.  I very rarely get sick and I’m quite fit.  I’m sooooo thankful for that.

9) My wealth, my home and my material possessions.

10) I’m grateful for Bahrain, and for the circumstances that brought me here.  Yes you read that correctly.  It may not be perfect but it’s a great place to raise a family.  I’m thankful I wasn’t born in a different, poverty-stricken Third World country where the chance of success would have been miniscule.

11) I’m thankful for you, who have shown interest in what I have to say :)

I could go on and on.  I could probably list 30 things or more.  I go through my gratitude list once a week.  It makes me feel good.  Also, the more grateful you are for things the more you will attract the same into your life.

I advise you to make your own list and review it regularly.  I know of some people who go through their gratitude list daily.

Well by friend, thanks for taking the time to read this and talk to you soon.  Make sure to leave your comments at the bottom :)

PS  I almost forgot, it’s my birthday today :p  And I’m grateful for being able to live a year longer on God’s beautiful earth.  I’m 36 years young and feeling great!  What else could a person ask for, right?  Alhamdulilah

A surprise birthday cake arranged by the Falak team after today's daily huddle.  From left, Gero, Gemma, Maria, Vinod, me, Shehab, Ahmed and Saba.

A surprise birthday cake arranged by the Falak team after today's daily huddle. From left, Gero, Gemma, Maria, Vinod, me, Shehab, Ahmed and Saba.

33 Year Old Bahraini Mother of Four Loses 40 kg!

Posted May 18, 2009 by Suhail Algosaibi
Categories: Fitness/Health, Success

Proof that the DreamBody Centre (DBC) works.

I got this letter recently from Reem Alyaqoob.  I’ll share it with you first and then I’ll give you my comments on it:

Dear Suhail,

My name is Reem and I wanted to share my experience at the DBC with you. I am a 33 year old mother of 4, Yara 13, Sarah 11, Ebrahim 8, and Isa 4. As I got married at a pretty young age, I never thought of exercising and paid no attention to the weight I was gaining over the years until I reached a stunning 120 Kg and my life was miserable. I was so depressed, couldn’t breathe properly, and worst of all I hated socializing with people. For few years I joined few gyms and beauty centers, went for hours using all kind of exercise equipment but often lost interest and felt defeated quickly.

Early last year I heard of DBC and the “23 minutes” exercise scheme. With a full daily schedule running my small business, helping all 4 kids with their homework, keeping up with my family obligations, I decided to give it another try. I joined DBC on 17th of  March 2008 and was so happy as after having the instructor show me around the first time I actually did not need any further instructions. I am in, sweating like never did before, and out of the centre in less than 30 minutes, I couldn’t ask for more.

After about a month my breath actually improved and I gave up my inhalator, felt much more active, and my sleeping habits improved in a big way.  With these positive signs, I decided to take it a bit more serious and started changing my eating habits. Nothing extreme, neither special diets nor calories count; just eating less from the same food I always had. In another 2 months people around me started asking me what I’m doing, “Wow … 23 minutes a day and some eating discipline! It’s working”. The encouragement I got from my wonderful husband and the staff at DBC especially Zahra kept me motivated and determined. I knew then I’m on the right track.

Thanks to you Suhail, and to the Dream Body Center, today I have exceeded my dreams. I lost 40 kg, I’m a much happier and confident person. I’m another living proof that “dreams can come true”.

Sincerely,

Reem Alyaqoob

Congratulations Reem on the amazing results!  Reem stuck to her determination to change her body and her life, and she looks and feels great.  Here are a couple of things I want to point out from her letter:

- Reem made the time to take care of herself, despite of her busy schedule.  Remember, she has four kids and owns a business.  It would have been so easy for her to just tell herself that she doesn’t have the time, but she chose not to go down that route.  She made a determined decision and I admire her for it.  That’s what makes the DBC so easy, it’s just 23 minutes!
Because of her weight she was depressed, couldn’t breathe properly, and hated socializing with people.  All that has disappeared!  She even got rid of her inhaler!  Can you believe it?

- The quality of her sleep improved too.  Many overweight people suffer from a condition called sleep apnea, according to the National Heart Lung and Blood Institute website, sleep apnea is “a common disorder in which you have one or more pauses in breathing or shallow breaths while you sleep.  Breathing pauses can last from a few seconds to minutes. They often occur 5 to 30 times or more an hour.  Typically, normal breathing then starts again, sometimes with a loud snort or choking sound.”   It’s really unpleasant and can lead to a feeling of tiredness during the day.

- She did not go on an extreme diet, and this is really important, because over 90% of diets fail.  You can’t lose weight by starving yourself, it just doesn’t work like that.  Your body will make you break your diet.  You can only lose weight by making gradual dietary and lifestyle changes.  FYI, at the DreamBody Centre we give you a FREE weight loss book when you join.  It’s an easy to follow, step-by-step guide on what you can do nutritionally to lose weight.  It’s written by famed Nutritional Therapist Alia Almoayed… who is my wife.

- Reem got support and encouragement from her husband, and I think that was critical.  It’s a lot easier to lose weight when you have the love and support of your family.

- She very kindly mentions the DBC Team.  At the DBC we are absolutely committed to helping people reach their goals, and we take our responsibility very seriously.  And we take customer service very seriously indeed.  The amount of Team training that goes one behind the scenes is quite incredible.

- Following from the previous point above, I’d like to acknowledge and thank Zahraa Al-Qattan for her dedication to our valued members.  Zahraa was one the very first Team Members to join the DreamBody Centre and has shown to be a committed and valued member of the Team.  Zahraa is working with us full time while also finishing a degree in Financial Management in the University of Bahrain.  She has a seven subject load in her final semester!  Apart from taking some time off during her exams, she’s hardly ever missed a day of work!  Thank you Zahraa.

- Reem has “exceeded her dreams” and has lost over 40 kg of weight!  One more thing that was not mentioned in the letter, Reem also lost 48.5 inches of fat from her body!

As soon as I got Reem’s letter I asked her if she could provide me with some photos of what she looks like now, and when she was overweight.  She sent me some amazing pictures of her standing in her old trousers.  She looked about half the size of what she was before.  She really looked amazing!  She asked me not to publish the photos though, saying I could only use them in the ladies section at the DBC.

I must say that I was really disappointed.  I asked to meet her and she agreed.  We met in the DBC in Seef.  Reem again thanked me for what the DreamBody Centre had done for her.  She told me that she is living the happiest days of her life.  She was so enthusiastic and bubbly.  It was so nice being around her.  She told me that she was singing the DBC’s praises wherever she went.  She has brought us so many new members that she received BD 798 worth of FREE bonuses from us!  She kept telling me how good she felt, and how happy she was.

She told me that even her husband was telling everyone about the amazing results she received.  She told me that many new DBC members started treating her like their coach!  Isn’t that interesting?

We eventually spoke about the photos she sent me.  I told her that I wanted to splash her pictures everywhere just like we did with Gareth Brown, who lost 21 Kg with us, and has become somewhat of a celebrity in Bahrain (see photo below).

Gareth Brown lost 21 kg and 6 inches from his waist at the DreamBody Centre.  He’s leaner, fitter and happier!

Gareth Brown lost 21 kg and 6 inches from his waist at the DreamBody Centre. He’s leaner, fitter and happier!

I virtually begged Reem to allow me to use her photos, I told her that I wanted to make her famous.  I told her that she would help so many people get results, as many people don’t believe something works until they see visual proof.

Well, Reem was hesitant to let me publish the photos.  She explained that in a conservative society like Bahrain it was not appropriate to publish photos like these.  I again pleaded with her and she said that she would think about it.  She said she’d also discuss it with her husband.

She emailed me a couple of days later saying that she  has decided to stick to her decision not to publish the photos.  I was very disappointed, but of course I respect her decision.

So, I can’t show you the amazing photos she sent me, sorry.
But I’m thankful that she provided me with pictures at all.  (Ladies, you can see the photos in the women’s section in the DBC’s)

If you’re interested in losing weight and transforming your body,
then contact us on 17 582 982 (Seef district), or on 17 613 352 (Hamala area), or visit our website.

Thanks for taking the time to read this.

PS At the DreamBody Centre we offer you two, honest-to-goodness, no nonsense, no BS, money-back-guarantees.  My philosophy is why offer something if you cannot assure clients with a money-back-guarantee, right?

Child Internet Safety Tools and Information

Posted May 14, 2009 by Suhail Algosaibi
Categories: Child Safety

Following up from my last post, I wanted to share some information on safer internet use for children, very kindly provided by Sarah from the Internet Watch Foundation:

A PDF guide on using software to stay safe on the internet: Using Software to Stay Safe on the Internet.

Some links which may help you choose a filtering product and find out more about online safety:

http://kids.getnetwise.org/tools/

http://www.getsafeonline.org/

http://www.e-victims.org/

Plus, for more information about the Internet Watch Foundation (IWF): http://www.iwf.org.uk/public/page.103.htm

I recommend that all parents look into this who have kids that use the internet.

The Fascinating Be Free Conference

Posted May 12, 2009 by Suhail Algosaibi
Categories: Child Safety

Last weekend I attended Be Free’s international conference on “Effective Strategies for the Prevention of Child Online Pornography, Trafficking, and Abuse”

You can see the Gulf Daily News’ coverage here for Day One, Day Two, and Day Three.

On the opening ceremony of the conference on the evening of the 8th, Be Free Director Dr. Soroor Qarooni gave out the first-ever Be Free International Awards For Best Practices in Child Abuse Prevention, and I’m very proud of the fact that Zen-Do Bahrain was the sponsor of these awards!

When I arrived at the ceremony one of the ladies from Be Free ushered me to the Bahrain TV cameraman, asking him to film me.  He asked me to wait a bit until he was finished with Dr. Qarooni, then it would be my turn.  I said ok but I asked him to make sure to ask me specific questions, as I don’t like to just waffle in front of a camera.  He said that he had no idea what to ask me, and that I’d have to come up with something.  He told me I had a few minutes to gather my thoughts.

So I tried to “gather my thoughts”, which were scattered all over the place, and were particularly reluctant to being gathered that evening.  It was like trying to gather scattered marbles at a reception -  while wearing a thoub and bisht.

Anyway, when my turn came I spoke in Arabic and muttered something like “I’d like to thank Be Free for allowing me to sponsor this prestigious and important event.  I’m honoured to be here.”  I forgot to mention who I was, so we had to do several takes of me mentioning my name.  I doubt they aired it…

There were three recipients of the awards:  Saudi Arabian government organisation the National Family Safety Programme, the Mauritanian Society for the Health of Women and Children, and most interesting of all (in my opinion), former Zen-Do student Saqeq Hasan Al Baharna.

Sadeq is in his final year in the university of Sharja, and pretty much has dedicated his life to helping teenagers live clean and drug-free lives.  He deals with different troubled youths, acting as their unofficial counsellor and coach.  On the second day of the conference Sadeq gave a presentation on a small survey that he did with 32 young Bahrainis.  His findings were quite shocking.  I can’t remember the exact figure but a significant percentage of the youths in his survey had sex (they ranged in aged from 13 to 19 years), and almost 90% smoked!

If I ever get hold of his slides I’ll share more of his findings, but suffice to say that they were quite shocking.  Today’s teenagers are a lot more troubled than we think, and do a lot more than we imagine.

There were many other interesting speakers, including Sarah Robertson, from the Internet Watch Foundation.  The IWF is an independent self-regulatory body based in the UK.  It was established by the UK internet industry to “provide the UK internet ‘Hotline’ for the public and IT professionals to report potentially illegal online content “

Here are some of the statistics Sarah shared, taken from their 2008 annual report:

- 58% of child sexual abuse domains traced contain graphic images involving penetration or torture (47% of domains in 2007)

- 69% of the children appear to be 10 years old or younger; 24% 6 or under, and 4% 2 or under (80% appeared to be 10 or under in 2007)

- 74% of child sexual abuse domains traced are commercial operations, selling images (80% commercial in 2007)

- It is still rare to trace child sexual abuse content to hosts in the UK (under 1%).  (Actually, most of the sites are hosted in the US)

Another thing she shared was that the actual number of domains containing graphic images of children is shrinking.  Which is the good news, the bad news is that there are still around 1,500 domains that contain images of child sexual abuse.  But, as the annual report states “Importantly, child sexual abuse content represents an extremely small, though extremely serious, proportion of all content on the internet.”

To view the IWF’s annual report click here(20090423_iwf_ar_2008_pdf_version).  (BE WARNED!  This is not light reading.  You may get disturbed!)

It really was an interesting and educational event, and I met some really lovely people, including Mark Capaldi form ECPAT, which stands for End Child Prostitution, Child Pornography and Trafficking of Children For Sexual Purposes;  Elena Martellozzo, a lecturer in Criminology from the UK who shared a case study she did with Scotland Yard.  I also had the pleasure of meeting Dr. Kate Maguire, who – among many other things – counsels sexually abused and neglected children.  Her PhD is in pain, can you imagine that!

Be Free manager Rana Al-Sairafi also gave a very interesting presentation about some of her findings.  She did a survey on children’s use of the internet.  Click here to see here findings as reported by the GDN.  Her findings are quite scary.

What stuck out the most in her presentation was that 30 percent of the respondents (aged between 4 and 17) were asked to meet by someone they met online!  Also, the number of children that received a request increased with age.

Here’s another: A total of 32% of girls and 27% of boys surveyed said they had felt that someone they had been speaking to online had used inappropriate language.  A participant, aged between 16 and 18, said “one person asked me to describe body parts,” and a female, aged between 16 to 18 said she had been asked embarrassing questions such as ‘what are you wearing?”

Also, “When asked if they felt comfortable about their parents knowing what they did on the Internet, 70% said no.”

Another speaker was 16 year old Bahraini Ammar Rajab.  Ammar is part of a programme in Be Free where they train youths on how to provide coaching to their peers.  The young man gave an impressive presentation on some of the problems faced by today’s youth.

If there were any lessons to be learnt form the conference they are:

- Kids spend a lot more time online than we think.  Also, they spend a lot of time socialising and chatting on social networking sites with people they know – and complete strangers.  So parents should get much more involved in that part of their children’s lives.  They need to learn the technologies involved, no matter how intimidating that thought is.

- Very many children have seen indecent images on the internet.  A significant portion of them quite by accident.  So parents should get filtering software on their children’s computers.  The most famous is probably Net Nanny.

- Many youths feel that their parents don’t understand them.  They feel alienated and distanced from their parents.  Therefore parents should try to be more understanding with their kids.  They should show them unconditional love, and just as importantly, be non-judgmental.  This is probably the hardest thing to implement.

Overall, a really amazing conference.  It was so well organised.  To think that a small group of dedicated women managed to set up such an international conference with more than 100 representatives from ministries, non-governmental organisations and the media from Bahrain, Saudi Arabia, Qatar, Yemen, Palestine, Jordan, Sudan, UK, US and Mauritania is just amazing!

Here’s some more coverage on Aljazeera.net, and from the GDN.

Well, thanks for taking the time to read this and talk to you soon.

Ouch! The Nastiest Criticism I’ve Had in a Long Time!

Posted May 1, 2009 by Suhail Algosaibi
Categories: Success

I’m used to being (verbally) attacked every once in a while.  There’s not a single successful person who doesn’t attract at least some degree of criticism.  Believe it or not, being criticised is a good thing!

So, with that in mind, I’d like to share a nasty comment left by “Ayesha”.  It was left on the blog post I wrote about the fake John Hopkins cancer email. Be warned, it contains dirty language and I’ve not edited it.

Dear Mr. Gosaibi,

It has come to my attention that there are a lot of malignant tumours multiplying in your brain producing loads of mucopurulent fibrinous exudate which comes up from your anus and directly out of your mouth …due to reverse peristalsis… it happens because like attracts like… so all the shit down there gets attracted to the shit in your cranial cavity… after which you spew it out to share with us all.

The genetic cause for this seems to be the bullshit gene which got activated when you saw dollars in the charlatan enterprise…

ps..ppl. we love you…if you want to save yourself keep away from this RETARD. Doing a bit of research will show you how dangerously misleading all this is. A bit of truth mixed in with a load of bullcrap.

Sincerely

Ayesha

Is this mean or what?? First of all Ayesha, I forgive you.  No really, I do.  I’m not being sarcastic or anything.  I know you didn’t ask for forgiveness, but I forgive you nonetheless.  I suspect I must have hit a raw nerve with my comments.  I suspect that you or someone you know suffers or suffered from cancer, hence your comments.  If this is the case I’d like to offer you my sincerest apologies for bringing up painful memories.  I hope the fact that you managed to release your anger made you feel better.

If your comments are not related to anyone you know suffering from cancer, then I still forgive you.  And I suggest you stop visiting my blog because it will probably just frustrate you even   more.  Again this is honest to goodness advice, and I say it without any sarcasm.

One more thing Ayesha, on a lighter note, that was the most creative insult I’ve ever received!  Really!  I’ve been insulted before many times but this was by far the most eloquent!  You have some good creative writing skills and I suggest you pursue that – but in a more friendly tone of course.

Moving on to you, dear reader.  Like I said before, being attacked like this is a good thing.  I think Matt Furey said it first, “NO CRITICS = NO SUCCESS.”

The more successful you become the more critics you will have.  It’s a law of the universe and it cannot be changed.  If you’re too friendly (some) people will criticise you and think you’re a pushover.  And if you’re harsh and straight forward (some) people will say you’re mean and rude.  If you’re ambitious (some) people will say you’re greedy and perhaps even corrupt.  If you’re not ambitious and content (some) people will call you a lazy bum.  There’s no escape from criticism.

Another thing. There are people in this world who can’t wait to get offended.  The moment they wake up they are on a mission to get offended by someone or something, and they can’t wait to criticise someone.  Though I’ve never met her, it sounds like Ayesha is in this category.  And the more successful you are the more criticism will come your way.  So believe it or not getting a comment like this is actually a sign of success!

Don’t Defend Yourself

I want to share another nugget of wisdom with you.  I heard it from Deepak Chopra, at a live event here in Bahrain, and it had a huge impact on me.  He said something to the effect of don’t justify yourself to others.  I later heard a more detailed explanation on one of his audio programmes where he explained that when you don’t defend yourself you become defenceless, and when you become defenceless, there’s nothing for others to attack.  I love it!

Though I’ve probably given miss Ayesha way more attention than she deserves, notice that I didn’t defend or justify my actions, because I didn’t feel the need to.  I did apologise, but I did not justify or defend myself.  I wanted to be better than she was, but I also think she spoke from a place of pain, and I didn’t want to make it worse.  I could have been as nasty as she  was, or given her some sort of witty reply, but what’s the point, right?

Well, that’s that.  Look forward to seeing your comments.